So, many years ago my husband said to me "I don't want to follow the whole Santa myth/lie thing with our children". I was mildly devastated. My memories of christmas as a child were so wrapped up in the magic of Santa's-midnight-dash-across-the-Pacific-to-struggle-down-non-existent-chimneys-in-his-fur-lined-suit-in-40-degree-temps-just-to-give-me-presents. *pant, puff...breathe* I felt in that moment that i had been a little ripped off, that i wouldn't get to share and re-live my Christmas memories with my children.
Fast forward nearly 4 years later and here i am pondering how i can get rid of this ridiculous Santa idea from my 3 year old's head. Here's how it went....
Mummy- "Remember when we talked about Christmas last week with Nonny, Harry?"
Harry- "Huh?"
Mummy- "We said Christmas is someone's birthday? Whose birthday is it? "
Harry- "Ummmm.....It's Santa's!"
Mummy- "aarrgh, NOOOO! It's not Santa's birthday, it's someone very special, do you know who?"
Harry- "Umm......mummy's birthday?"
Mummy- "Well, yes it actually is mummy's birthday but that's beside the point. It's Jesus' birthday! Hooray there will be cake and a party just for Jesus."
Harry- "What about Mary?"
Mummy- " Mary was Jesus' mummy but it's not her birthday. Mary is a good mummy but she's just a mummy not special like Jesus (Please don't repeat this to your quasi-Catholic Nonny)."
Harry- "well...what about Elmo?"
Mummy- "sweetie Elmo doesn't really have anything to do with Christmas"
Harry- "He does mummy he does! And soon Santa is coming!"
Mummy- "Darling Santa isn't coming, mummy and daddy give you presents so that we can celebrate Jesus' birthday!"
Harry- " No you don't mummy, no you don't. Santa and Elmo bring all the presents mummy.
Mummy can i something to eat?"
And that was the end of our Christmas conversation. So my fear initially was that Harry would miss out on something special but now i realise that I'm actually going to have a hard time convincing him that the great and powerful media circus is feeding him a big fat Christmas lie. So i continue to tell him about Jesus and we play with our nativity scene and i keep answering questions about Elmo, Santa and Mary. I am now going out of my way to avoid big fat shopping centre Santas, NO ONE is taking the glory for my present buying.
Happy Birthday Jesus. xx
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Harry playing with our home made nativity scene |